How can people in our society sit back and watch people die everyday because they don’t have health care. On this holiday I ask “how can we be that selfish and self-centered?” This morning on the Today Show they had a Doctor that quit her private and opened a clinic to help people without insurance. I was moved by her generosity.

Happy Holiday!

Whoo Hoo

I am so excited about the release of my new book!
“Paint Your Walls Green: 6 Keys to the Power of Positive Change”.

In March of 2003 I was diagnosed with advanced stage glaucoma and lost sight in my right eye and partial sight in my left eye. I needed four surgeries and time to readjust to a life without sight. I felt powerless because I was financially dependent on my family. There is a big price to pay when you allow others to support you. I lost my identity, my purpose and most of all the choice to be authentic.
I needed to work from home, since driving was no longer an option and became a life coach and motivational speaker. My message became the importance to live your own the life regardless of your circumstances. I woke up one day and decided I was going to live by my own values, and make my own lifestyle choices., My life began to dramatically change.
The wall color and hand-me-down furniture in my home symbolized the control and influence I allowed others to have in my environment. I was brought up with the philosophy “there is no free lunch” and felt locked in to live by other peoples’ values and decisions. When I made some different personal choices and simple changes I began to experience the power of Positive change. This decision represents a whole lifestyle change not just a wall color, but it started with the choice to create my environment and paint my walls green.
I am no longer “tolerating” other people’s choices in my environment.
To be totally authentic we must take responsibility for our decisions.
Think about your own life. Look around you, your home, and your workspace; does it reflect “you”? Or does it reflect other people’s choices.

I didn’t know it was my choice all along!

When we are centered, we are self-aware and can synchronize who we are on the inside with our external environment.

Autumn:   This is not a time for hustling, though many of us—myself included—have had to fight off the urge.  Instead it is a time to reflect, contemplate and gather new tools and meet new people.  We need to have the knowledge and insight to change during spring and summer. It is a time to consider and prioritize ways to let information sink in and see how it can be used to our advantage.  Autumn’s associated element is metal—from which we gather strength and endurance. In holistic arts, it is important to see the seasons, elements, and their energies as integrated and flowing—not disconnect.

How you enter one season influences the next season.

It is important to bring your attention back to your self—checking in to see what is most needed to fulfill your authentic goals.  Fire is what brings us into the strength of metal, yet at the end of its cycle metal softens into water (the winter season) which generates your most creative cycle.  So after energetic pursuit, gathering, and understanding of information, winter offers the flexible power for shaping information into new life, is what is considered the most creative of the seasonal periods, which will, give way to springs’ energy of rebirth and renewal.

We all make the decision to enjoy our lives and make the most of our circumstances. Do things differently. The reason the book is called paint my walls green is because it took me a long time to get to have the courage to change.

• Look At Your Life: Does Your Lifestyle Make You Happy?
• Look At Your Attitude: Do Your Thoughts Make You Happy?
• Set The Right Goals for Happiness
• Work Toward Your Goals in healthy ways

What are the things in life you think bring you personal happiness? Some of them are the things that you would expect: money, friends, health, living conditions; others are things you may not think of in your daily life, such as your neighborhood, spirituality, community involvement, and sense of meaning in life.

Your perceptions, beliefs and attitude about life, can greatly impact your overall level of happiness and life satisfaction.

The Law of Attraction

*      We become what we believe

*      Look for people who are happy

*      Self-talk create your thoughts

*      Think positive thoughts, words and images and expect good things to happen

*      You are in control of your mind

*      Focus on your strengths

*      Look for new opportunities

*      Think outside the Box

You will be waiting and waiting if you depend on others to make you happy.

So, give yourself the joy of being happy.

Does thinking about your problems, make them go away or do you any good? If you have a positive attitude it leads to feeling happy. When we have this frame of mind, we are open to more people to network with, friends and opportunities. When you feel better you will find more solutions. You will focus more on what you have and what you can do instead of staying stuck in your problems.

It is easy to manifest the life that you want, when you imagine the life you want instead of the life you don’t want. Looking for away out and expecting everything to turn out well is the law of attraction. When we focus on a positive outcome you get a positive outcome. Do you go places where you feel calm, positive and hopeful? Do you associate with people who see the glass half full or half empty? Worry, financial crunch, debts, hiring freezes, pension losses,  are all associated with loss and fear. We can remain calm, positive, and happy in times of distress.  So, you say….How?

The story we tell ourselves becomes the way it is….the reality as we know it. It limits what is possible in our lives and robs us of joy and effectiveness. When we are able to separate what really happened, from our story we discover that much of what we considered already fact may not be correct. Situations that may have been challenging or difficult become much easier. We find ourselves no longer limited of options and able to achieve what we want.

You and I can enhance the quality of every relationship we have with honesty & authenticity. Most people understand that these two qualities build trust, but I believe that the skill to cultivate trust is often overlooked in exchange for other things that can be gained from the relationship, such as money or popularity. This is especially true in business. Unfortunately, money is a much bigger motivator than trust in many business relationships.

Honesty & authenticity should be met with acceptance. If I am open and honest with you, it is easier to keep communication open if I am met with your acceptance. While acceptance is a vital thread of connection for relationships, it is not a license to disrespect another person demanding that these disrespectful actions be met with “acceptance.”

Honesty & authenticity also lead to a strong bond based on trust and acceptance. Without these traits vulnerability and intimacy is impossible. It’s also important to note that there are levels of vulnerability & intimacy. The intimacy we share with close friends is very different from the intimacy we share with our significant others.. It’s a commitment to look at ourselves and see what we can change that will improve our lives. Looking outside of ourselves, placing blame on other people, places or circumstances will never give us the answers we are looking for. Human connections, can withstand circumstances, illness, distance and even death. The degree of intimacy we share with others is in direct proportion to our ability to be authentic and open. If we stay closed off, or shut down it is impossible to love or be loved.

Engaging the Power of Choice in Relationships

Enjoy your relationships and cherish the time together!

Relationships are energy—in fact, quantum energy. When two or more agree on anything the energy focused on an outcome is exponentially magnified. A perfect but extreme example would be in the case of a riot: havoc is created when individuals come together to rebel.

Consider this, if you associate with people who live in scarcity, you create the same in your life. If you live your life with relationships that are in an atmosphere of abundance, you create abundance. It’s just that simple! This is the law of attractions’ basic foundation. What relationships are impacting your life? Who influences the way you think & feel? When I lived in an apartment complex, where people were transient or having money problems, I stayed stuck in the same energy. Once I got out among people who live in abundance, laughed and enjoyed life, my life started to change.

We all have the choice to be in healthy or unhealthy relationships and they impact our lives more than we know. By choosing a healthy support system, we absorb healthy energy. When we have a mentality of being “needy” that is what we attract, people who are needy.

Today very few people stay in the same job or in the same home throughout their lives. People change with their circumstances change. The support system I needed when my children were young is nothing like it is today as a career minded, dog loving, single baby boomer. I have changed and so have my needs, desires and goals! My basic values and morals are the same, but my interests, thoughts and feelings are different. Through technology I am able to communicate and work with people from all over the world.

I remember when I was young; my parents had a milkman who brought milk, eggs and ice cream once a week, a laundry man that picked up and delivered laundry and my favorite was the ice cream man. Life would be boring without change, but it is important to remember all the people and experienced who have touched your life along the way. I love and value all the people I have met along the way.

Living a life of abundance is your choice!

I am open to abundance.
My finances are secure.
I am saving more money every day.
I am prosperous, health and happy.
I spend only what I have.
I am building a financially stable future for myself and my family.
I value my time and energy.
I value my money.
I deserve to be prosperous.
I am worthy of receiving abundance.
I am the source of my abundance.
I focus on what I love and draw it to me.
My choices and possibilities are expanding every day.
My thoughts are loving and positive.
My dreams are coming true.
I trust that the universe will always meet my needs.
My energy is focused and directed to my goals.
I am willing to accept the best life has to offer.
I am open to opportunities.
I honor myself at all times.
I give myself permission to have what I want.
I believe in unlimited possibilities.
I am creative and capable.
The universe always serves my higher interests.
I expect and receive the very best.
I accept good things into my life with gratitude.
I trust that everything comes at the perfect time and in the perfect way.
I am a special, unique person with much to offer the world.
I allow myself to play and enjoy life.
I bring love to everything I do.
I appreciate all that I have.
I always do my best.
I picture success for everyone.
I am succeeding!
I give myself permission to be and do what I want.
I value myself.
I learn from my challenges.
I allow myself to dream.
My dreams are coming true.
I manage my money wisely.
I am self-confident, loving and generous.
My energy flows freely and easily in all areas of my life.
My life is alive with vitality.
I open to my inner guidance.
I focus on my goals daily.
I am happy, healthy, wealthy, healed and whole.